Mama!

The most amazing woman and friend i ever had to share life with, MAMA. The woman with a great heart.
Mama, will walk with bear feet just to see her young ones in shoes.
She will have just few dresses in order to see her children with a daily change of clothes.
She will cut down her hair, just to see her daughter go to the salon and her son get a nice barber cut.
She will go without food, just to see her family have something at the table for supper.
Mama, the woman behind every smiling person.

Mama will walk long distance just to fend for her young ones.
She will be up early and get to bed late just to set her house in order,
 she will not give up despite the many difficulties she undergoes with her children
She will  find worth in you and hold to you when no one thinks you deserving enough
Mama, the woman behind every smiling person.

Marriage

Dear small siz,

I wrote this to remind you that marriage is not a career.
So as you finish high school be ye thoughtful of the life ahead.
Relationships are not job interviews,where you get to make meetings with your future boss but a great step towards marriage where you get to mold the father of your children and the husband you want. 
Marriage is not a job, where you set to work and wait for your dues. Its a commitment, a union where each and everyone's contribution is needed.
So as you play around with your education hope you not thinking of applying for a marriage certificate!

Yours love,

Big siz

You Are special in your own way

Some will stand bold and look at you in a way to depict that you are nothing to them. some will not fear to tell it to your face. that you are useless or that you are not fit enough to be part of their circle. No matter what the circumstance of you cause of feeling low and rejected is, it is quite clear that we are not able to please each and every person we come along. some may like us some may just hate us, but worst is some may hate with absolutely no reason to justify there acts. So with this be rest assured that its not everyone who will marvel and say how great you are but that doesn't translate to your being inferior.
Its only you who can choose how you want to feel, if you choose to be low you sure will be made to feel more low than you actually chose. Set the bar for those you interact with and let them be able to follow.

Anger

 anger does not choose who but you choose whether to be angry or not.

A short word yet creates a lot of impact in ones life .It leaves some stressed and others stunned yet it never changes.Its all the same year in year out. you never know the impact until you let it rule. It doesn't give warning but the impact itself warns more than you could have been warned before.An ancient word yet is carried through the years over the generations whether old or young, male or female they all find themselves having it at one point in life. No matter what profession or vocation you take you at one point come face to face with it and before you know it consciously or unconsciously it happens and you angry. No one has never been in a circumstance where they are forced to become angry. The question what do you do when you get angry? How do you carry yourself around? Do you transmit your anger to everyone like a network operator offering good network service or do you work on it?And how does one get to work on their anger?

Over the last six months we have had several cases of anger and regret run on the media. cases of a man men stubbing or beating up their wives.

How comes some people cope well with their anger and are able to control it and avoid causing trouble and damage to others and the things around? The thing is that they have taught  themselves  the art of containing their anger. Anger is a tool of mass destruction and can cause fights between siblings, nations and even religions.It is thus important for us to learn how to control our anger, since it is not easy to avoid getting angry.

To do this we have to get to understand ourselves in the best way possible. It only when you own yourself that you get to value yourself and from that then others will get to value you for who you are.This is the first step towards solving your issues with anger.Having the peace of mind and Peace in general is much more important. It does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise,trouble or hard work. It means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart.How do you get your heart to be calm when you agitated? If you know yourself well you probably know what calms you down when you angry and that is what you got to employ in moments that make you so. You can engage in an activity that can help you calm yourself. Some people may engage in sports, others may choose to write something down and free their heads. Some may choose to withdraw from others.

When you choose to play lets say you choose football or tennis ball, some may let go their anger on the ball instead of having done in on other people or destroying property. Some choose to swim and they go on and try new tricks and explore the depths of the pool or the waters in which they choose to swim in.Some may even choose to engage in boxing depending on how enraged they are.

Boxing may be a good way to relieve your anger and stress instead of beating up others or breaking property.

For ladies cooking or knitting may just be the best way to release your anger. Some will clean the whole household just to help them calm down. 

Some may choose to watch a movie or listen to music. The type of movie and music may differ from one person to the other.Music can differ from one person to thew other but its the most popular language that brings everyone together. it unites the whole world to one. However what matters is that the person gets to control their anger. Even though music maybe be a nice form of distraction from doing something regrettable when mad, you should also avoid listening to very loud music so as not to battle with its defects later in life just because you were relieving yourself from anger. Anger can be costly but you should know the best way to tackle it free.

You can listen some nice music in your bed.

 With the right music of choice you can get to an environment of your choice and listen to it. you can even go jogging or take a nature walk it works well with music.

Nice music with the nice view of nature go hand in hand. You can lay down and listen to your inner self. You can take to to meditate on your life 

You can enjoy cycling and relieve your head off stress.

jogging over a distance can help in reducing anger.

Engaging in an activity is not always easy, depending on the person and how they react others some people are however not able to do anything and may sleep. It is not wise to sleep while angry though.Some may choose to speak about it to to a friend or someone they trust most. they say Anger may identify a problem, but it will never solve one. Talking to someone may help you get to know the root cause of the problem that made you angry.Problems shared are problems half shared even if you do not get the whole solution you may get hints on how to tackle it.
You can always talk to the person who has made you angry. Not always does someone know when they make others angry that they have done so. It may never be intentional though for you it may occur as something planned. You may spend your whole life harboring someone in your small head for free while they can not even remember. Always learn to talk and put things straight."No one can make you feel inferior, without your consent"- Eleanor Roosevelt. Either way nothing gets to be of disturbance to you without you viewing it as one. its all in your power.It is you who chooses what can happen to you so if you wish to house someone in your head you can do it for as long as you can until you decide to let go then you will always have the burden.
You do not have to be like a programmed machine that reacts to all signs of anger causing talk and actions;if so you will suffer wear and tear and you will soon be buried and leave behind people enjoying life. As you live on earth you should not expect it to be so perfect and without trials if you knew you wanted a life without challenges you should have tried another planet.You cannot prevent the birds of sorrow from flying over your head,but you can prevent them from building nests in your hair.- Chinese proverb. Don't let the world rule your life instead take charge. Do not spend your whole life trying to change the world, it will always be the way it is while you are just passing through and you will soon be gone leaving it behind. 
Did you know how disappointing it is to do something expecting a certain result then it does not work as expected?

When a child hits you are insults you, and you don't react notice a look similar to this. It is the same way in most humans.

 It feels the same way when one tries to make you angry and they end up not  succeeding. Do not yield to peoples expectations by making them happy when you get angry instead, react uniquely. try smiling when insulted or say thank you and see how disturbed the person will look.
We should try not to offend others too.We should accept our flaws and avoid being defensive give chance for new things in your life. Pave way for correction then you will be a great being ,ja mata..

“We should be too big to take offense and too noble to give it.” ~ Abraham Lincoln

OUR COUNTRY OUR PRIDE

 What runs through your head when you see our national flag besides what we did learn in school  that; black represents  the people of Kenya. Red represents the blood shed in the fight for independence. Green represents the fertility of the land. White represents peace. The shield of the warrior represents Kenya's pride and tradition?

Does it ever occur to you that the flag is a sign that you are a free being?That you are free of any colony and that you can do anything you feel right as long as you do not suppress another man's right to freedom? 

 Have you ever taken time to go through the words of our National anthem?

The National Anthem

Kiswahili	English
1	1
Ee Mungu nguvu yetu Ilete baraka kwetu Haki iwe ngao na mlinzi Natukae na undugu Amani na uhuru Raha tupate na ustawi.	O God of all creation Bless this our land and nation Justice be our shield and defender May we dwell in unity Peace and liberty Plenty be found within our borders.
2	2
Amkeni ndugu zetu Tufanye sote bidii Nasi tujitoe kwa nguvu Nchi yetu ya Kenya Tunayoipenda Tuwe tayari kuilinda	Let one and all arise With hearts both strong and true Service be our earnest endeavour And our homeland of Kenya Heritage of splendour Firm may we stand to defend.
3	3
Natujenge taifa letu Ee, ndio wajibu wetu Kenya istahili heshima Tuungane mikono Pamoja kazini Kila siku tuwe na shukrani	Let all with one accord In common bond united Build this our nation together And the glory of Kenya The fruit of our labour Fill every heart with thanksgiving. Does it figure to you that anytime you sing our national anthem you actualy make a prayer to God? Let us not be so ignorant let us have pride in our country,flag and the National anthem at all times. whether we have worn or lost at peace or at war Kenya is still ours.

Why don't we get along with our parents anymore?

As one grows older and reaches the teenage stage the love and excitement we have for our parents slowly fades with time and is replaced with hate and displeasure for them. What really happens and how does this creep in? What can we do to avoid this?
Most of us are affected either directly or indirectly thus making this topic worth our attention.

let us talk

What runs into your mind when you hear someone talk about swag?

How to go round your house girl

Several weeks ago i felt so bad as i watched news featuring a young couple who had lost their baby from  chocking. Around the same time some house help in a country in Africa was caught mixing her menstrual with the baby's food.There have also been incidents of house helps drowning babies and taking off never to be seen again.
This and many other horrifying stories of what house helps have done to the innocent children left in there care. Whenever a house help steals or does something wrong we quickly send them away and on the next day we have another being sent from upcountry to us in the city. The trend goes on without us realising that there is something wrong somewhere that needs to be addressed until one does something to turn our attention to them is when we get so busy as though it is the first time we are getting to see such.
Let us not wait until our house catches fire for us to start removing our belongings from it; let us be wise and instead act before it strikes.
How can we get the situation in control? Before getting to solve what we do not know let us first spot the flaws.
From the beginning when the girl is brought to you and you take her in as your new house help do you really know who she is?You are probably thinking that this is a girl who wants to work for money and is so desperate and would do anything. That is what most of us think.The truth is that this are people with flesh and blood and more so with feelings just like me and you and we tend to forget this.How do we make things work for us while we still get along without any major problems arising?
If it is possible you should be able to know who you are dealing with.This is your house yes,she is your employee and i do not object to that but get to know where she comes from before you get to deal with her. Get to know her background,her  relatives and what type of life she has been living and the environment she has lived in before she got to your house.
This is going to help you a lot as you will know how to address her in case she goes wrong.If she is an orphan you will probably understand why she may be sad at times and not in the mood to do things as usual. If she has been abused in the past you will understand why she may distance herself and be cold despite being in your house. It is thus your duty to help them gain your trust as trust is earned. It is from this that some families have had a family nanny passed on to their children.

The way you address someone would easily tell how you perceive them. It is thus very important to think before you start talking to someone or if it proves hard don't say anything at all. It will not hurt when you say nothing but it will hurt most when you say something without giving it a second thought.Even when it call for some  scolding do it as you would want it to be done to you. Don't hurl insults at  or condemn her as that would only make it worse for your children as you do not know what she may do when you are away. Do not shout at her when asking her to do something;she is not deaf,even the deaf are not shouted at.

when she asks you of something do not answer her back as though she is some intruder, a good answer kisses the lips. Answer her in the same way as you would expect her to. It will even be more easier for you as you will now be communicating.Keep in mind that communication takes place when a message is sent and the message is decoded in the way the sender intended it to be. Let her know what you expect of her ;do not assume she knows everything, even angels get orders and instructions from God.

just how is she to manage this? Can you?

At the end of this do you expect any good results?

When it comes to work give her work that she can be able to do.Do not give her work as though she were some beast of burden.you should also not shower her with duties such that in the end she does not know what to do and what to leave behind. If you give her too much she will either do somethings and leave some or do everything but register some poor performance.

Do some of the house work when you are around so as to set an example, in short show her that you know what you are telling her to do. Do not let her think that she knows more than you do;besides being your employee you should still take control of the situation without being bossy.
Let not what you do with her be restricted to giving orders and taking reports no. Also make it your duty to commend her on the good things she does. Let her feel appreciated but do not overdo it as too much of something has also proved to be poisonous. Give her some gifts according to season thus if it is Christmas season , don't just open gifts as she watches and salivates. Let her feel as part of you.

Lastly let her have her voice in the house since she has become part of you. In case of a misunderstanding between her and any other member of the family, listen to both sides before you make judgment. You should also not impose decisions on her. Do not make her wear over size clothes as though she were your house clown or something. what are you fearing? Does her wearing that erase your fear? It only makes things work for you. When you mistreat her in that kind of way she easily earns sympathy. In any case why would you fear for your husband because of a mere house help?THINK!

Train your children not to look down upon her or make fun of her. She is not paid to be a doll. Let her have the respect she deserves;If you humiliate her in there presence they will try it in your absence and trust me the results will be harsh and cruel. She may do anything that will run into her mind  whether planned or unplanned.

Crying after the milk is spilled doesn't bring the milk back to the glass and neither does wishing make it reality .Let us use our clay before it drys lest we risking throwing it away or having to wet it again.If we take this in consideration and what else we are advised carefully we will have happy children and happy house helps taking care of them and soon we will see them run around.

The happier she is the more happy your baby will be;The harder you make her life the cruel she will be to your baby. All the best.